A Three Workshop Series On:

Exploring Coupling and Focusing
starts Saturday, February 6 in Manhattan

$200/couple per workshop

Workshop 1: Focusing Partnership in a Couple


A. Making Room for Impact on the Listener
B. Managing the delicacy of Focusing with concern for Impact. Is there a way to say your piece without starting a      problematic chain reaction.? More care for how Content is articulated and more time in Process.
C. A Protocol for working with complications.
D. Understanding 12 avenues into felt sensing as a way to be safer in couple interaction-
     a. Avenues such as: location, shape, gesture, sounds and texture are unusually safe.
     b. --ed words-pushed, pressured, blamed, rejected, belittled, scorned, forgotten, ignored, left, banished are          complicated but useful . How to prepare a partner for hearing those as an interim or bridge to a deeper place.
     c. Avenues such as Emotion, metaphor, internal dialogue, imaging and speaking from the felt sense are not so safe.      d. Positive felt sensing (another avenue) can work beautifully but it can invite the shadow of the other or connect          the other to your shadow.
E. Thinking beyond Patterns IS Focusing. Can you identify a couple pattern and then "Think beyond the pattern" as a      felt sensing?
F. Homework: weekly couple partnership

Workshop 2: A Couple Changes Group and Conflict Resolution in Triads

A. I will teach an elegant focusing model for conflict resolution with a third person. Each person will be in the role of facilitator, conflict initiator, conflict receiver. All this will happen in the context of a changes group.
B. Limiting Content of a conflict. Expanding felt sensing.
C. As you see so clearly the injustice or wrong or problem or resistance or trap .. . . .of the other, how are you inside?
D. Homework: Biweekly Couple Changes Group Workshop

3: Focusing Implied Couple's Work in quadrads.

A. One couple is working. One of the other couple is listening; the other is guiding.
B. Guide looks for entry into felt sensing connected to a couple situation by initiator, keeping content compact and expanding felt sensing. Listener reflects.
C. When there is sufficient entry into FS as confirmed by guide and listener's empathy, guide interrupts and checks on empathy or empathy block in partner. Guide and Listener switch roles. Guide explores partner's response without criticism and listener reflects. With sufficient entry into felt sense by the partner as confirmed by guide and listener's empathy, guide interrupts, moves to partner and checks on empathy or empathy block. For exploring that, there is another switch in roles between guide and listener.
D. Process continues without a clear end. We are simply becoming aware of empathy opportunities and exploring the empathy that comes or the blocks which come in the partner.
E. Guide and Listener and the first couple switch roles and repeat process.
F. Recommended: A 2 couple 3 hour or 3 couple 4 hour applied focusing session with Robert Lee $180/couple F. Homework: 2 exchanges with another couple.

Robert L. Lee, Ph.D. is a focusing theoretician and innovator. The last 7 years he has organized 9 certification training groups and a post-trainer group. Three of the training groups were for psychotherapists, four were for professionals of various kinds. A licensed psychologist, Lee has developed a new model for teaching focusing (Domain Focusing), he has developed a theory and practice for change on the macro level for stubborn problems (Changing the Unchangeable), he has developed a comprehensive practice for working with difficulties in felt sense formation (Elusive Felt Sensing). He has developed special methods for using focusing in couples' therapy and in group therapy; he has applied focusing to Quaker spirituality. He has applied focusing to bodywork, health and to physical problems.

Contact Robert L. Lee, Ph.D.: robert@focusingnow.com; (toll free) 888-275-5648